Perinatal depression: On why it’s ok to say I hate my child sometimes

Perinatal depression is a common challenge for new parents, one in 10 was the common standard. Perinatal mental health problems have however significantly increased during the pandemic, up to almost every other pregnant and postpartum women struggling with depression and anxiety. It is a dark place for the entire family, the couple, and the individuals. An untreated perinatal depression causes longterm consequences on the child’s mental health. Something that can with relatively little effort be avoided, if assessed early, the parent getting the nurture and outlet of someone listening and containing non-judgmental and fully present. It can feel awful and horrible as a parent to feel negatively and hating one’s own child, that was often extremely wanted, yet when struggling with perinatal depression one simply doesn’t have the resources to do so. Parents not struggling with perinatal depression at times can also feel that way. Being angry at times at your child is normal, children trigger our own inner child and childhood needs that haven’t been met. It’s important how to resolve a situation as such, not avoid that by all means.

 

Steps to get out:

• Seek professional help early.
• Get support and take the oxygen mask self first to help your child.
• Self care is essential to nurture and care yourself.
• Join a group of supportive non judgmental women and/or men.

@drschwank

@unesurcent

@optimalperformancezurich