Dr. Simone’s Mind Space

The daily life of a hyper anxious high functioning person

Many of us have experienced a situation of anxiety, may it be public speaking or your driver’s license ride. When there is lots on stake and personal, family, and societal expectations tied to it, we tend to over estimate the amount of time people spend being present and having an opinion about it.

High achievers, with high intrinsic motivation, tend to overthink, overanalyse, and catastrophize events and their outcomes.

 

In order to reduce the symptoms of worrying; what often happens is that people run away from their fear even more. Aimless, like chased by a perpetrator, a wild animal.

In such situations of hyper vigilance, we need to send the body and mind a signal of calm. This is however immensely difficult to remember, in a state of such acute (chronic) stress.

 

What helps fast?

-Breathing deeply

-High intensity exercise

-Legs up the wall, other inversion position

-Grounding exercises, shavasana

-Meditation: body scan

-Grounding foods: root vegetables, warm soups, date milk with cardamom & cinnamon

 

Listen to the podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/se/podcast/dr-simones-mind-space/id1532493956

 

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Back to school: organization skills

Many children and their parents discuss and struggle with the same topic over and over: keeping school and generally for adults, their “stuff” organized. In order to be successful in school and generally in life, we very clear need how to organize individual people, small and big groups. The better we keep track of things, the less time we’d actually need and the less physical and mental effort would be required.

We’d be able to allocate our resources to other things, which are most likely more stimulating and intellectually more demanding and interesting. It saves us a lot of mental space, that’s then free to be used  in more creative ways. This is also one of the explanations, why we often miss out on qualitative time, not “contaminated” with re- or post-organizing.

 

Write a to-do list

-Plan your outfits and outfits of your child

-Always return things to the place they belong

-Routines rock as always

-Have a routine in getting ready in the morning and evening unpack your belongings for yourself and your child

-Engage all family members in keeping their belongings organized

-An organized room, apartment keeps you accountable and sets a scene to be all planned out

-Use a decluttering and gifting to charity approach for the entire family to avoid piling up too much stuff

-Go with the flow, if organization doesn’t work out one day

-Let children play and have them after playing and pulling out everything return the toys

 

 

@drschwank

@unesurcent

Back to school: New year, new academic milestones

A time of excitement, anxiety, and increased stress for all family members. Expectations, visions, milestones, and goals. As a family, each member contributes to supporting each other. Every member has a responsibility to make the common goal successful. This approach gives each member autonomy to achieve the envisioned milestones.

Discuss with everyone how you’d like to achieve the goal. Who’s going to do what. By setting tangible goals, each one can feel

engaged, motivated, and can be held accountable.

And in all of this, never feel to be an add on, but a honest member.

 

 

References

https://raisingchildren.net.au/toddlers/behaviour/understanding-behaviour/about-self-esteem

 

@drschwank

@unesurcent

🎄Holiday season 6: travelling solo with kids

It’s holiday season and for many parents around the world, this implies travelling with kids. Maybe you visit a family member alone with your child. How to cope with solo travelling?

 

Some recommendations: AA as

-Travel Compact

-Don’t bring too many toys. New places are like lot we s of new toys

-Pack using lists to organise and minimise unnecessary multiples

-Comfort before price: take that taxi instead of bus etc

-Ask for help, don’t be shy

-Bring enough funny snacks for the train, flight, car ride

-Hydrate yourself and your child well

-Stay relaxed, your child will be too

-Go with the flow

-Humour always helps

 

@drschwank

@unesurcent

🎄Holiday season 5: sleeping issues with holiday kids —> what to do?

Many parents around the world struggle with sleeping patterns of their children and often themselves too.

What to do? Especially, when on holiday break?

It’s a challenging endeavour and can make one get to physical and mental exhaustion. It’s important to listen to oneself and one’s body’s signals. Having a different sleeping schedule comparing to the everyday life is rather normal during the holidays. Don’t we adults have that too? Why do we expect anything different from our kids? Yet, it doesn’t take away the wonders and questions of self doubt if we’re doing something wrong.

 

Some recommendations for better sleeping hygiene:

• Routines rock, BUT adjust them to your situational needs!!
• Rituals and symbols are a good way of easing into sleeping
• Go with the flow
• Keep your own healthy sleeping routine and lead by example
• A prior to bed ceremony can help the mind settle in
• Use symbols such as washing your and your child’s face (a bath), creaming the body, light a candle or use a room sent to set the scene for coziness 💤💤💤

@drschwank

@unesurcent

🎄Holiday season 4: Home alone with kids

What to do as working parents when daycare/ schools are closed?

 

The holidays weather in the northern hemisphere is usually quite a challenge. Especially, with smaller kids who can’t yet be put on skis. Many parents decide to skip the chaos up in the Swiss mountains, but where to go to get some urgently needed sunlight and not too much hassle?

 

Parents of small children in the lowlands of Switzerland are best equipped, if they have a day bag packed. Ready for an easy start to head out into the sun. Overall, gloves, winter boots, hat, and sunglasses ready at hand.

 

Activities around the lake of Zurich:

-Uetliberg (check webcam and crowded!)

-Felsenegg cable care & tea house (open on weekends)

-Albis great view, lots of sun, and awesome slide ride hill (car or postcard only)

-Any place higher up near by, such as: Einsiedeln, Rigi, even St. Gallen

 

Catch a train and off you go!

 

 

@drschwank

@unesurcent

🎄Holiday season 3: family conflicts

Spending time with loved ones can be one of the greatest joys of the winter holidays. But family time can also result in conflict.

 

Long manifested challenging family dynamics can cause friction between members of ones and cast a shadow over happy gatherings.

 

There is always the family members that don’t get along. Holiday stress can amplify the already tense situation among family members, especially if out-of-town visitors are staying with you. Even joyous family gatherings can add stress by creating more work for those who are hosting relatives or traveling out of town for family gatherings.

@drschwank

@unesurcent

 

🎄Holiday season 2: make self care your priority

Prioritizing guilt free self care is essential. Self care is often misinterpret  as a luxury “problem”. The opposite is true, it’s an intentional practice that nurtures your emotional, spiritual, physical, and intellectual well-being.

 

As many are parents; especially mothers, experiencing reoccurring guilt is a big topic. Guilt for not spending enough time with the children, not giving the child top priority, nor being fully present and dedicated at work. The omnipresent feeling of guilt is exhausting and can be defined as contaminated time.

 

Self care implies establishing habits that allow to sustain long-term, not just recover from moments of exhaustion. 

 

Seeking help from a mental health coach or therapist to a make a significant difference in managing seasonal pressures.

@drschwank

@unesurcent

Holiday season 1: Me time islands

Tips to manage the holiday break

 

• Set boundaries find time for yourself and minimize activities that may negatively impact your mental health. You don’t need to put other people’s preferences ahead of your needs.

 

• Communicate friendly and clearly with loved ones about your boundaries.

 

• Your island establish a daily routine of self-care practice (yoga, meditation, skin care routine, .

 

• Values make choices that align with your values. You can’t change nor control other people, but you can control your response.

 

• Practice acceptance of what we can’t control helps us cope with negative emotions and move on to grow.

@drschwank

@unesurcent

 

State of the Art Fertility Treatment 8: In Conversation with Dr. Christine Forte

Today‘s  podcast is in conversation with Dr. Christine, live from New York and off her therapist sofa. Together with Dr. Simone, live from Hong Kong, we discussed the topic of infertility, IVF treatments, and common themes and practices in our therapy sessions.

 

 

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@drchristineforte

@optimalperformancezurich